He said his dream girl was Anne of Green Gables. My three friends and I were camping at this Christian rock festival for the week. We had just finished our freshman year in college. We came back to the festival. Maybe it was some attempt on my part to pretend that there was an easy bridge to be built between the person that graduated from high school and the person I had become a year in college. But seeing things as they actually are is a bridge that is difficult to find.
So our tent was on this little hill leading down to the huge lake. We spent half the week trying to figure out how to sit in our lawn chairs without tumbling down into the water. It was on the main path leading to the main stage where all the big bands played; the backache from sleeping was only a small sacrifice. Stephen came over one of the first days as I was trying to figure out exactly how the grill worked. He was kind of short for a guy with this dark hair and watery blue eyes. The whole week he wore these surfer board blue and white shorts without a shirt. He comes over and sits right down and begins talking about passion and believing in God. I sit down and before I know it we are talking about soul mates and other silly ideals. And that is what these kinds of things are all about anyway, camping and doing nothing but talking to strangers from North Carolina. He is a youth leader, and his plan was to go abroad and do missionary work. I on the other hand was already head first into my college life or the journey to losing my faith. But he made me want to believe. I could tell you everything I know about him. but I wont. But I’ll say this: He left an impression. We sat all week at his campsite with his youth group and listened to him play guitar, the night sky, the big fire by in front of us. The week left us and I made sure I took a picture of him. I have it tucked in my bible: Him in this adidas green t-shirt with a red bandanna on, and a half smile like things are right in the world, or they could be. We exchanged emails, and for weeks we would email each other questions and replies. There never was anything but answers and another question. Some nights we talked on AIM and as drunken girls ran up and down my college hallway he told me about this God that he loved. I would think about how much I didn’t want to loose my faith in college, and it made me sad then talking to him.
This one night I started admitting that this bridge I kept looking for was nowhere to be found most days. I was unguarded, exposed. It felt good. He listened, challenging me carefully and then he says -Emily, I have a good feeling about you. You’re going to be just fine. I say -what do you mean by that?
-It’s something you just have to see for yourself. I’ll tell you though, but next time we talk.
He then tells me he was going to London, to do missionary work with youth. I knew that I would hardly hear from him, the world was so big and he didn’t even know it. I told him to email me, let me know that he was good. -That you’re happy, I said, it’s important I know you are. I will he promised. Two months went by and I heard nothing from Stephen. One late afternoon I came home and looked at my buddy list, there was his name. I couldn’t believe he was online, I IM-ed him and said -Are you alive?
The IM replied, -Hey, this is Stephens father.
I wrote, -oh im sorry, I just haven’t heard from Stephen how is he? , I’ve am sure he is doing great things.
His dad did not respond right away. Then he wrote, -don’t you know.
-Know what?
-Stephen died he then said. - He died on his way to the airport.
I sat completely still, my eyes blinking at the computer screen, cheeks soaking.
-There were over a thousand people at his funeral, he was twenty four.
-He was wonderful
-He was wasn’t he, his dad wrote then.
-Yeah.
I don’t elaborate but I can tell he knows what I mean. He then suddenly asks me,
Do you think it’s bad I can’t delete his name from our AOL account?
It was a silly question really, his concern over it, the junk mail piling up for a guy who will never check his mail again. Once a month he gets online to delete the full mailbox.
I tell him- keep his name. I say, it’s good to keep it.
-I will, he says, thank you.
Stephen didn’t die right away. That is the worst part. Some days I’ll think about him sitting on our lawn chair awkwardly propped up on the little hill-him sitting there \ laughing and talking about life like it can be everything we deeply imagine it to be. He had these piercing blue eyes too. I’ll think of that, and then this image of him lying on the ground as sirens, blue, red, white fill the air. And I wonder what is happening in his mind. I wonder if he knows he is dying and most importantly if he’s scared. I hope then, when I think like this, that he closes his eyes and doesn’t think about the blood covering his white pale body. I wish for him to just think about goodness.
I never did find out what he was going to wait to tell me, and it’s kind of beautiful in my mind, his soul holding a secret about me. When I smell bonfires in the fall, I think of this, and I hope, not even for anything in particular, I just hope.
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